Well, the last few weeks have been a shemozzle. Since coming out of a three-month lockdown, it’s helped me evaluate a couple of things in my life. And I’m sure I’m not the only one. Firstly, I’ve decided to focus all my blog writing on Medium from now on. Since 2019, I’ve been publishing content here and republishing it on Medium. But over the past … Continue reading I’m Now Only Publishing On Medium
I have friends who call me by my drag name, Delilah. Mostly it’s shortened to Del because it’s an Australian custom to abbreviate names. I also have friends who refer to me as a dude, bro, and a mate. In fact, I’ve been referred to as both a girl and a guy, and a plethora of gender-fluid endearing terms. Bitch, slag, homo… And in all … Continue reading Why My Pronouns Are He/She/Whatever
We all have the unconscious idea that metropolitan areas are too sophisticated for bigots. I mean, as Bernadette Bassenger said in Priscilla: Queen of the Desert, “I don’t know if that ugly wall of suburbia has been put there up to stop them getting in or us getting out.” With ‘them’ being the homophobes; the uncouth straight people. But our views have changed a lot … Continue reading “Gay People Take Drag For Granted”: The Influence Of Ru Paul In Australia
Anxiety feels like the world is against you, but that’s not true. In fact, it’s all you. Even if the world suddenly became amazing right now, you’d still feel the pangs of anxiety; the fretting mind, the aching stomach, the hunched shoulders, and the undeniable belief that everything is out of control. Yeah, I’ve been there too. And yes, I wish I could give you … Continue reading 3 Things You Must Know About Anxiety
Ah October. It’s the month of spooks and high strangeness. And I’ll be sure to keep this in mind for my three book recommendations! The simple idea of this monthly book brag is to help people, wherever they are on the sexuality spectrum, gain fresh perspectives. Not just on normalising the different sexualities, but on all the other weird and wonderful things that make life … Continue reading The Gay And Straight Monthly Book Brag: October 2021
I’m a lowercase liberal, in that I believe everyone should have the freedom to be, to say, and to do what they wish — provided you don’t adversely affect others. I also believe in “your body, your choice” — provided your actions are made on the best advice. This is why I say you should consult your doctor when it comes to Covid-19 vaccines rather … Continue reading Dear Anti-Vaxxers: You Are Not Being Discriminated Against
My Tuesday morning was a little different today. Thanks to Sydney’s ongoing lockdown, my mornings usually consist of waking up, taking my phone off charge, and spending an hour doom-scrolling on Facebook. With no immediate things to do during lockdown, there’s no catalyst to get out of bed on most days. Eventually, when my stomach begins to grumble, I’d flick off the covers and go … Continue reading Facebook’s Global Blackout Proved Its Worth
When we visualise our past successes, as many people recommend, we feel temporarily proud. But this rarely spurs us into action because we don’t want to replicate our past results — we want better results! And if we visualise our future goals, as others recommend, it swells our desires but almost always crushes our actions. Because we will eventually notice the plethora of steps we … Continue reading Strive For Your Goals With This In Mind
Warning: gag-worthy content ahead. Here’s something I wish I never learned today: some straight men don’t wipe their asses because they think it’s gay. Yep! Apparently letting your fingers going anywhere near your back passage is equivalent to two men fucking each other. I’ll let you process that for a moment… Now, apart from the major problem of offending everyone’s noses with your pungent butt … Continue reading Dear Straight Men: Wiping Your Ass Is Not Gay
When it comes to anal sex, the person who ‘takes it’ is more likely to contract an STI if their partner has one. This is because the rectum’s lining is thin, affording better absorption of infection. Indeed, this is not to say that a ‘top’ has minimal risk; they too can contract an STI through their urethra. But studies show that bottoms are at a … Continue reading Vaccines Are Like Condoms
No matter how good you are at judging books, you will never really know what’s good or not unless you read it. I’ve loved books with 3-star ratings on Goodreads. And I’ve hated books that everyone loves. 50 Shades of Grey comes to mind… As the saying goes: Don’t judge a book by its cover. And it’s the same with people. We all judge others … Continue reading The Gay and Straight Monthly Book Brag: Sept 2021
Ask any elderly gay man about Sydney’s gay scene today and they’ll tell you it’s not as big as it used to be. You’d hear about grand drag shows at Capriccios and the fabulousness of Patchs. If you walk down Oxford Street today, you will find only a few longstanding legends like Stonewall Hotel and The Shift (formerly Midnight Shift), with many clubs remaining a … Continue reading Are Gay Venues Still Relevant?
The Gay Straight-Talker 