A good quote is short, snappy, and straight to the point. It never waffles, it just delivers the punch with gusto. And, like every good sentence, they make you understand. In essence, quotes are like friends. They are there when you need them, ready to offer their wisdom. They know how you feel, because the person who wrote that quote has been through it. They … Continue reading 10 Short Quotes To Enhance Your Life
I’m gonna let you in on a little secret here: your mind is not an all-seeing god. It can produce misinformation quicker than a QAnon quack – and, if you’re not observant enough, you’ll believe it. So, sometimes you need to look at the matter before you make up your mind. As a writer, one of the greatest pieces of misinformation I deal with is … Continue reading Matter Over Mind: An Unconventional Approach To Being Happy
While abstinence is by far the best way to avoid viral infections, let’s face it: a pandemic doesn’t dampen the libido. If it did, we’d have refrained from sex during the HIV epidemic. And while a mutual jerk-off sounds like great advice, we all know that another person’s hand (or mouth) is better. So, rather than waste time telling you to suppress your carnal appetites, … Continue reading How To Have Sex Safely During Covid
Thirty-three years ago, Former President Ronald Reagan pondered optimistically on how an alien invasion would unite the world. Unfortunately, rather than tackling his central theme, we launched conspiracy theories about possible alien invasions – clearly missing the point. “And yet,” he continued, “I ask you, is not an alien force already among us? What could be more alien to the universal aspirations of our peoples … Continue reading 2020’s Greatest Lesson We’ve Yet To Learn
When it comes to life, there’s no greater cause for alarm than the act of turning 30. Society has built up an ongoing ideal that you have to do everything before your 30, and that’s not entirely true for everyone. Indeed, many of you will have worked towards a career or strived to get married and have children, or even gone on a working holiday … Continue reading The One Thing You Must Do Before 30
So there I was, chatting to this gorgeous hunk of a man on Grindr. We had swapped pics and personal preferences and I was keen for action. In fact, I could wrestle in bed with him till dawn and it was only 9pm! And then he asks… “Do you take PrEP?” “No, I prefer condoms,” I reply. “Oh, I’m on PrEP. Is that okay?” “Yeah, … Continue reading PrEP Is Killing My Sex Life
You’ve heard the saying… “Labels are for clothes, not for humans.” As if we don’t require categorisation. But I somewhat disagree because, without categorisation, how do we fit into this wide and wavering world? It’d just be a cliche sea of plain white clothes, mingling without any navigational points. You see, we require labels, not just to shape our own identity, but to showcase to … Continue reading Labels Are For Humans, Too
Let’s face it, this pandemic has dampened our social lives. Is it just me, or are the days just blending together? It seems that all we have at the moment is work and home, home and work. And it feels so polarising. We have to suffer from finding connections through the virtual world, with our friends and family. And when we do meet up in … Continue reading Overcoming Loneliness In A Pandemic
As a writer, I can’t do what everyone else is doing. Not only is it plagiarism, but it’s also practically impossible since everyone writes in a smorgasbord of different styles, voices and forms. Further, if I was to write what everyone else is writing about, then I won’t succeed either. Nobody wins by following the crowd. Which means, for me to be the best at … Continue reading Want To Belong? Then Stand Out!
Intelligence is not about what you know but how you know. For instance, you know that no other word rhymes with orange – not because I just told you, but because you’re actively trying to find a word that does. You are applying knowledge to a conundrum and finding the truth. This is also true for emotional intelligence. To be emotionally intelligent, you need to … Continue reading How To Practice Emotional Intelligence
I usually get a sexual health check-up every six months. (And no, that’s not because I’m a slut. In fact, my sex count is quite tame compared to the average gay man.) The main reason I have regular check-ups is because of my sexuality. I sleep with a community that has a history of high STI prevalence. Of course, that’s all changing now thanks to lowered … Continue reading A Quick Gay Man’s Guide To Safe Sex
Every single person you meet will conjure up some fantastical version of you. And regardless of whether you’re the Queen of England or a lowly peasant, many of them will be bad. But are these bad opinions really worth validating? More often than not, they aren’t! Of course, the human brain doesn’t work like that. We strive to be the ultimate versions of ourselves, and … Continue reading Who Cares If People Think You Suck!