Gender Sex

Calm Down, Trans and Non-Binary Aren’t Making Your Genitals Invisible

With all the talk about gendered pronouns nowadays, you’d be forgiven for thinking that vaginas and penises are going out of fashion. But, when a global pandemic fails to dampen our sexual appetites, I really don’t think that is the case. As we all know, having a penis or vagina really helps with climaxing. And yet, we still get the likes of J. K. Rowling … Continue reading Calm Down, Trans and Non-Binary Aren’t Making Your Genitals Invisible

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10 Camp Anthems To Strut Your Stuff To

Mince it, girl! It’s time to showcase those money makers, honey. Ripple them buns and get the boys gagging on your fine behind! But first, you need a smashing hit, one that’s fly like apple pie and spicier than a drag queen’s tongue. And girl, have I got the goods for you… Whenever you need a pick-me-up, throw on one of these tunes and waltz … Continue reading 10 Camp Anthems To Strut Your Stuff To

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Sometimes It Is Easier Being Gay

Apart from the rigmarole of coming out to every person you meet and answering ignorant questions, sometimes it is easier being gay. For one, we don’t have to deal with the patriarchy that still permeates modern society. Men know what men want, and women know what women want. There’s no separation of the sexes. Which, on some level, makes finding sex so much easier. I … Continue reading Sometimes It Is Easier Being Gay

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3 Gay Memoirs You Must Read

Most listicles like this are filled with books that the author hasn’t read. But I can assure you that I have read each of these gay memoirs from start to finish and loved them immensely. They are exquisite narratives that reach deep into the heart of queer life. The best part about these gay memoirs is how they challenge the current queer literary landscape, revealing … Continue reading 3 Gay Memoirs You Must Read

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PrEP Is Killing My Sex Life

So there I was, chatting to this gorgeous hunk of a man on Grindr. We had swapped pics and personal preferences and I was keen for action. In fact, I could wrestle in bed with him till dawn and it was only 9pm! And then he asks… “Do you take PrEP?” “No, I prefer condoms,” I reply. “Oh, I’m on PrEP. Is that okay?” “Yeah, … Continue reading PrEP Is Killing My Sex Life

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Queer Media Representation: Who Cares If They’re Straight?

Some of the greatest queer films that came out of the 90s and 00s cast clearly non-queer actors. Birdcage. Priscilla: Queen of the Desert. Two Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything. Transamerica. Milk. Brokeback Mountain. And yet, regardless of the straight and cis-gendered actors who were cast, their portrayal of the struggles of gay and trans life is extraordinary for the times. The unconditional love between … Continue reading Queer Media Representation: Who Cares If They’re Straight?

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Labels Are For Humans, Too

You’ve heard the saying… “Labels are for clothes, not for humans.” As if we don’t require categorisation. But I somewhat disagree because, without categorisation, how do we fit into this wide and wavering world? It’d just be a cliche sea of plain white clothes, mingling without any navigational points. You see, we require labels, not just to shape our own identity, but to showcase to … Continue reading Labels Are For Humans, Too

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Can We Normalise Sexual Fluidity?

Before I get started: NO, I am not asking everyone to be gay. Not all of you would want to try, and that’s totally fine! But, I am asking for society to view sexuality in a fluid state, where it’s completely normal to swing along the spectrum. Where straight people could go gay without being categorized, and gay people could go straight without social turmoil. … Continue reading Can We Normalise Sexual Fluidity?

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Owning The “F” Word

It’s just a word… Faggot! There… I said it! But is it really that shocking anymore? For me, it’s just another term of endearment. “Hey fag,” I say to my friends, grinning because we both know that it doesn’t really hurt anymore. Once upon a time, the word did affect me. At school, in the playground, the bullies would mutter it under their breath, giggling. … Continue reading Owning The “F” Word

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My Favourite Dame Shirley Bassey Tunes You Must Listen To Right Now!

And I’ve got the videos to prove it… My iTunes library is filled with around 24 Shirley Bassey albums — that’s about 380 songs. Sometimes I’ve got duplicates of the same song from a few different albums, and some of her albums I’ve skipped buying because I’ve already got most of the songs on it. So it’s safe to say that I am an avid … Continue reading My Favourite Dame Shirley Bassey Tunes You Must Listen To Right Now!

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A Quick Gay Man’s Guide To Safe Sex

I usually get a sexual health check-up every six months. (And no, that’s not because I’m a slut. In fact, my sex count is quite tame compared to the average gay man.) The main reason I have regular check-ups is because of my sexuality. I sleep with a community that has a history of high STI prevalence. Of course, that’s all changing now thanks to lowered … Continue reading A Quick Gay Man’s Guide To Safe Sex

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3 Things Every Gay Man Wants You To Know

The hardest part of being different is having to explain yourself every single time. I dream of a day when that won’t be the case. But it’s foolish to hope that everyone will understand you because we’re always going to have arseholes in this wide and wavering world. So I guess I’ll have to suffice with hoping that one of you could understand me. And … Continue reading 3 Things Every Gay Man Wants You To Know