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How To Know When You’re Thinking Too Much

Whenever I feel like I’m thinking too much, I ask myself: is this really as big a problem as I think it is? More often than not, it isn’t worth my peaking stress levels. And sometimes it’s not even a problem to begin with! Today, for example, my thoughts spiraled around whether this blog is good enough and if I should change it. And all … Continue reading How To Know When You’re Thinking Too Much

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5 Queer Films That Changed My Views On Being Gay

Growing up, I’ve watched plenty of queer films that helped solidify the truth about being gay; that it is as normal as the air we breathe. As I’ve said before: queer representation in film is vital for gaining queer acceptance. In fact, any normal representation of a marginalised community is vital for gaining acceptance. But, some of my favourite queer films dug deeper, showcasing profound … Continue reading 5 Queer Films That Changed My Views On Being Gay

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Disused Gay Terms That Are Hilariously Wrong

Disclaimer: very sexual and slightly derogatory I’ve never been a fan of the term “pillow biter”, mostly because I’m a top. I prefer to penetrate than be penetrated, if you catch my drift; so biting pillows is not something I would need to do. Of course, biting pillows was important in the past to hide a homosexual act. Bite a pillow to stop moaning, so … Continue reading Disused Gay Terms That Are Hilariously Wrong

How To Help Your Vaccine-Hesitant Friends Get Vaccinated

I’ve spent the better part of this year arguing with vaccine-hesitant friends on social media. I’ve thrown them peer-reviewed articles, clear-cut statistics, and plenty of logic — but none of this is helping. That’s because people are not likely to change their views during a conflicting argument. Instead, they dig themselves deeper. The fact is, we don’t like being wrong; it’s just not a nice … Continue reading How To Help Your Vaccine-Hesitant Friends Get Vaccinated

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How To Research In The Misinformation Age

Intelligence isn’t just being right; it’s knowing when you’re wrong. We live in a world where being wrong is bad. It’s all about being right and making sure the world knows it. But what if I told you that being wrong is part and parcel of what it means to be intelligent. Because once you know you’re wrong, you will almost always strive to be … Continue reading How To Research In The Misinformation Age

Gay Conversion Therapy Is Not “Therapy”

Nor is it “conversion” for that matter… Therapy, n. (Theh-ru-pee)Meaning: treatment intended to relieve or heal a disorder. As an openly gay man, it’s impossible to consider my sexuality as a disorder. I’m clearly not confused since I made my mind up years ago. And being gay can’t be an illness if it doesn’t adversely affect me — or others, providing the sex is consensual … Continue reading Gay Conversion Therapy Is Not “Therapy”

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What It’s Like To Have A Ridiculously High Sex Count

I wish I could tally up all the people I’ve slept with, but the fact is I can’t. Or, putting it better: the task is nearly impossible. To hazard a guess, I’d say the number sits between 100–200. But in all honesty, it could be more. Put simply: I’ve lost my sex count. Of course, it’s not something I’d happily gloat about. Sure, some people (men) … Continue reading What It’s Like To Have A Ridiculously High Sex Count