Ask any elderly gay man about Sydney’s gay scene today and they’ll tell you it’s not as big as it used to be. You’d hear about grand drag shows at Capriccios and the fabulousness of Patchs. If you walk down Oxford Street today, you will find only a few longstanding legends like Stonewall Hotel and The Shift (formerly Midnight Shift), with many clubs remaining a … Continue reading Are Gay Venues Still Relevant?
It can affect straight people too In 2019, straight men in Western Australia were more likely to be diagnosed with HIV than gay men. In fact, since the introduction of PrEP (an HIV-preventative drug) into Australia in 2016, HIV diagnosis rates have lowered dramatically in the gay community. And the trend is not just happening here in Australia, it’s actually noted across the western world. … Continue reading HIV Is Not A ‘Gay Man’s Disease’
When you want to know if someone is gay, the first question you must ask yourself is: why? Why do you need to know? For me, knowing whether someone is gay or not makes dating them easier. If the guy isn’t gay, I save my time. Or maybe they are, which means I’m in! Last thing I want is to hit on a straight guy … Continue reading How To Tell If Someone Is Gay
Growing up, I’ve watched plenty of queer films that helped solidify the truth about being gay; that it is as normal as the air we breathe. As I’ve said before: queer representation in film is vital for gaining queer acceptance. In fact, any normal representation of a marginalised community is vital for gaining acceptance. But, some of my favourite queer films dug deeper, showcasing profound … Continue reading 5 Queer Films That Changed My Views On Being Gay
Disclaimer: very sexual and slightly derogatory I’ve never been a fan of the term “pillow biter”, mostly because I’m a top. I prefer to penetrate than be penetrated, if you catch my drift; so biting pillows is not something I would need to do. Of course, biting pillows was important in the past to hide a homosexual act. Bite a pillow to stop moaning, so … Continue reading Disused Gay Terms That Are Hilariously Wrong
The call for changing the rainbow flag is already dividing people across the globe, which is not helpful if we wish to gain traction in global inequalities around sexuality and gender. Continue reading Changing The Pride Flag Won’t Help
I wish I could tally up all the people I’ve slept with, but the fact is I can’t. Or, putting it better: the task is nearly impossible. To hazard a guess, I’d say the number sits between 100–200. But in all honesty, it could be more. Put simply: I’ve lost my sex count. Of course, it’s not something I’d happily gloat about. Sure, some people (men) … Continue reading What It’s Like To Have A Ridiculously High Sex Count
Even fluid states do not choose to be fluid. Most of us experience sexual fluidity at least once in our lives. For some, it lasts years; for others, it’s a temporal moment of confusion. And all are exacerbated by societal norms. Yes, even I fell for the idea that being straight is normal. But nothing really is normal. It’s just accepted. Unfortunately, the ongoing idea … Continue reading Sexual Fluidity Is Not A Choice
The downside to identity politics. Did you hear about the latest trend? Apparently it’s considered high fashion to establish your own collective identity. Indeed, I’m not talking about all the little things that make us unique, but all the supposedly pertinent identities that separate us into groups. Most prominently around gender, sex and sexuality. To use an example, I would be considered a cisgender gay … Continue reading I Am More Than Just A Gay
There are many reasons why we still have gay pride parades. This includes the fact that some people still wish to deny us certain freedoms, like marriage, and that some people still don’t like us at all. Sometimes that includes our own selves. Yes, gay pride parades are still necessary, even today. Continue reading Why Gay Pride Parades Are Still Necessary Today
My coming out story was pretty uneventful in the end. There were bumps, of course, but they were all smoothed out eventually. I’ve mostly been accepted, and the only people who denounced me were those I didn’t really care about. So, I can easily be called a privileged gay. But it doesn’t make me feel better. It should, in some way, because it means I … Continue reading I’m A Privileged Gay And It Doesn’t Make Me Feel Better
Considering the fact that homosexuality was a criminal offence for most of the 20th century, gay men being shallow makes sense. We had to constantly be on our game, picking up who’s really interested or who might just be a cop. Or who might be keen for a gay bashing. It’s not like we were able to freely date anyone. But since we’re now a … Continue reading Why Are Gay Men Still Shallow?