I have friends who call me by my drag name, Delilah. Mostly it’s shortened to Del because it’s an Australian custom to abbreviate names. I also have friends who refer to me as a dude, bro, and a mate. In fact, I’ve been referred to as both a girl and a guy, and a plethora of gender-fluid endearing terms. Bitch, slag, homo… And in all … Continue reading Why My Pronouns Are He/She/Whatever
We all have the unconscious idea that metropolitan areas are too sophisticated for bigots. I mean, as Bernadette Bassenger said in Priscilla: Queen of the Desert, “I don’t know if that ugly wall of suburbia has been put there up to stop them getting in or us getting out.” With ‘them’ being the homophobes; the uncouth straight people. But our views have changed a lot … Continue reading “Gay People Take Drag For Granted”: The Influence Of Ru Paul In Australia
Ask any elderly gay man about Sydney’s gay scene today and they’ll tell you it’s not as big as it used to be. You’d hear about grand drag shows at Capriccios and the fabulousness of Patchs. If you walk down Oxford Street today, you will find only a few longstanding legends like Stonewall Hotel and The Shift (formerly Midnight Shift), with many clubs remaining a … Continue reading Are Gay Venues Still Relevant?
It can affect straight people too In 2019, straight men in Western Australia were more likely to be diagnosed with HIV than gay men. In fact, since the introduction of PrEP (an HIV-preventative drug) into Australia in 2016, HIV diagnosis rates have lowered dramatically in the gay community. And the trend is not just happening here in Australia, it’s actually noted across the western world. … Continue reading HIV Is Not A ‘Gay Man’s Disease’
I actually wear a bra for much the same reason as women do. I wear them to hold up my fake breasts when I’m in drag. You see, some of the dresses I own aren’t tight enough to hold my teardrop tits in place, and so wearing a bra means they can stay put when I galivant across a stage. And who’s to say that … Continue reading All Clothes Are Gender Neutral
When you want to know if someone is gay, the first question you must ask yourself is: why? Why do you need to know? For me, knowing whether someone is gay or not makes dating them easier. If the guy isn’t gay, I save my time. Or maybe they are, which means I’m in! Last thing I want is to hit on a straight guy … Continue reading How To Tell If Someone Is Gay
Growing up, I’ve watched plenty of queer films that helped solidify the truth about being gay; that it is as normal as the air we breathe. As I’ve said before: queer representation in film is vital for gaining queer acceptance. In fact, any normal representation of a marginalised community is vital for gaining acceptance. But, some of my favourite queer films dug deeper, showcasing profound … Continue reading 5 Queer Films That Changed My Views On Being Gay
Disclaimer: very sexual and slightly derogatory I’ve never been a fan of the term “pillow biter”, mostly because I’m a top. I prefer to penetrate than be penetrated, if you catch my drift; so biting pillows is not something I would need to do. Of course, biting pillows was important in the past to hide a homosexual act. Bite a pillow to stop moaning, so … Continue reading Disused Gay Terms That Are Hilariously Wrong
The call for changing the rainbow flag is already dividing people across the globe, which is not helpful if we wish to gain traction in global inequalities around sexuality and gender. Continue reading Changing The Pride Flag Won’t Help
I wish I could tally up all the people I’ve slept with, but the fact is I can’t. Or, putting it better: the task is nearly impossible. To hazard a guess, I’d say the number sits between 100–200. But in all honesty, it could be more. Put simply: I’ve lost my sex count. Of course, it’s not something I’d happily gloat about. Sure, some people (men) … Continue reading What It’s Like To Have A Ridiculously High Sex Count
Even fluid states do not choose to be fluid. Most of us experience sexual fluidity at least once in our lives. For some, it lasts years; for others, it’s a temporal moment of confusion. And all are exacerbated by societal norms. Yes, even I fell for the idea that being straight is normal. But nothing really is normal. It’s just accepted. Unfortunately, the ongoing idea … Continue reading Sexual Fluidity Is Not A Choice
To be blunt, I class myself as a male. But, in certain circumstances, I can embody the female form. And when I’m in that form, I prefer to be referred to as a lady. I can do this because I have characterised myself into the opposite gender. And this should help explain the various genders that are out there – including nonbinary. You see, when … Continue reading A Drag Queen’s Perspective On Gender
The Gay Straight-Talker 