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The Gay and Straight Monthly Book Brag: Sept 2021

No matter how good you are at judging books, you will never really know what’s good or not unless you read it. I’ve loved books with 3-star ratings on Goodreads. And I’ve hated books that everyone loves. 50 Shades of Grey comes to mind… As the saying goes: Don’t judge a book by its cover. And it’s the same with people. We all judge others … Continue reading The Gay and Straight Monthly Book Brag: Sept 2021

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Are Gay Venues Still Relevant?

Ask any elderly gay man about Sydney’s gay scene today and they’ll tell you it’s not as big as it used to be. You’d hear about grand drag shows at Capriccios and the fabulousness of Patchs. If you walk down Oxford Street today, you will find only a few longstanding legends like Stonewall Hotel and The Shift (formerly Midnight Shift), with many clubs remaining a … Continue reading Are Gay Venues Still Relevant?

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HIV Is Not A ‘Gay Man’s Disease’

It can affect straight people too In 2019, straight men in Western Australia were more likely to be diagnosed with HIV than gay men. In fact, since the introduction of PrEP (an HIV-preventative drug) into Australia in 2016, HIV diagnosis rates have lowered dramatically in the gay community. And the trend is not just happening here in Australia, it’s actually noted across the western world. … Continue reading HIV Is Not A ‘Gay Man’s Disease’

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5 Queer Films That Changed My Views On Being Gay

Growing up, I’ve watched plenty of queer films that helped solidify the truth about being gay; that it is as normal as the air we breathe. As I’ve said before: queer representation in film is vital for gaining queer acceptance. In fact, any normal representation of a marginalised community is vital for gaining acceptance. But, some of my favourite queer films dug deeper, showcasing profound … Continue reading 5 Queer Films That Changed My Views On Being Gay

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Disused Gay Terms That Are Hilariously Wrong

Disclaimer: very sexual and slightly derogatory I’ve never been a fan of the term “pillow biter”, mostly because I’m a top. I prefer to penetrate than be penetrated, if you catch my drift; so biting pillows is not something I would need to do. Of course, biting pillows was important in the past to hide a homosexual act. Bite a pillow to stop moaning, so … Continue reading Disused Gay Terms That Are Hilariously Wrong

Gay Conversion Therapy Is Not “Therapy”

Nor is it “conversion” for that matter… Therapy, n. (Theh-ru-pee)Meaning: treatment intended to relieve or heal a disorder. As an openly gay man, it’s impossible to consider my sexuality as a disorder. I’m clearly not confused since I made my mind up years ago. And being gay can’t be an illness if it doesn’t adversely affect me — or others, providing the sex is consensual … Continue reading Gay Conversion Therapy Is Not “Therapy”

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Sexual Fluidity Is Not A Choice

Even fluid states do not choose to be fluid. Most of us experience sexual fluidity at least once in our lives. For some, it lasts years; for others, it’s a temporal moment of confusion. And all are exacerbated by societal norms. Yes, even I fell for the idea that being straight is normal. But nothing really is normal. It’s just accepted. Unfortunately, the ongoing idea … Continue reading Sexual Fluidity Is Not A Choice

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I Am More Than Just A Gay

The downside to identity politics. Did you hear about the latest trend? Apparently it’s considered high fashion to establish your own collective identity. Indeed, I’m not talking about all the little things that make us unique, but all the supposedly pertinent identities that separate us into groups. Most prominently around gender, sex and sexuality. To use an example, I would be considered a cisgender gay … Continue reading I Am More Than Just A Gay

Curiosity Is Not A Reason To Know Someone’s Genitals

For far too long, the world has placed enormous importance on someone’s sex. So much so that we would treat people differently if they were a man or a woman. Indeed, with progression, we’ve come to learn that someone’s sex is not an overarching factor in someone’s character. You can have a vagina and lead a Fortune 500 company and, equally, you can have a … Continue reading Curiosity Is Not A Reason To Know Someone’s Genitals