I have friends who call me by my drag name, Delilah. Mostly it’s shortened to Del because it’s an Australian custom to abbreviate names. I also have friends who refer to me as a dude, bro, and a mate. In fact, I’ve been referred to as both a girl and a guy, and a plethora of gender-fluid endearing terms. Bitch, slag, homo… And in all … Continue reading Why My Pronouns Are He/She/Whatever
Ah October. It’s the month of spooks and high strangeness. And I’ll be sure to keep this in mind for my three book recommendations! The simple idea of this monthly book brag is to help people, wherever they are on the sexuality spectrum, gain fresh perspectives. Not just on normalising the different sexualities, but on all the other weird and wonderful things that make life … Continue reading The Gay And Straight Monthly Book Brag: October 2021
Warning: gag-worthy content ahead. Here’s something I wish I never learned today: some straight men don’t wipe their asses because they think it’s gay. Yep! Apparently letting your fingers going anywhere near your back passage is equivalent to two men fucking each other. I’ll let you process that for a moment… Now, apart from the major problem of offending everyone’s noses with your pungent butt … Continue reading Dear Straight Men: Wiping Your Ass Is Not Gay
No matter how good you are at judging books, you will never really know what’s good or not unless you read it. I’ve loved books with 3-star ratings on Goodreads. And I’ve hated books that everyone loves. 50 Shades of Grey comes to mind… As the saying goes: Don’t judge a book by its cover. And it’s the same with people. We all judge others … Continue reading The Gay and Straight Monthly Book Brag: Sept 2021
Ask any elderly gay man about Sydney’s gay scene today and they’ll tell you it’s not as big as it used to be. You’d hear about grand drag shows at Capriccios and the fabulousness of Patchs. If you walk down Oxford Street today, you will find only a few longstanding legends like Stonewall Hotel and The Shift (formerly Midnight Shift), with many clubs remaining a … Continue reading Are Gay Venues Still Relevant?
It can affect straight people too In 2019, straight men in Western Australia were more likely to be diagnosed with HIV than gay men. In fact, since the introduction of PrEP (an HIV-preventative drug) into Australia in 2016, HIV diagnosis rates have lowered dramatically in the gay community. And the trend is not just happening here in Australia, it’s actually noted across the western world. … Continue reading HIV Is Not A ‘Gay Man’s Disease’
When you want to know if someone is gay, the first question you must ask yourself is: why? Why do you need to know? For me, knowing whether someone is gay or not makes dating them easier. If the guy isn’t gay, I save my time. Or maybe they are, which means I’m in! Last thing I want is to hit on a straight guy … Continue reading How To Tell If Someone Is Gay
Growing up, I’ve watched plenty of queer films that helped solidify the truth about being gay; that it is as normal as the air we breathe. As I’ve said before: queer representation in film is vital for gaining queer acceptance. In fact, any normal representation of a marginalised community is vital for gaining acceptance. But, some of my favourite queer films dug deeper, showcasing profound … Continue reading 5 Queer Films That Changed My Views On Being Gay
Disclaimer: very sexual and slightly derogatory I’ve never been a fan of the term “pillow biter”, mostly because I’m a top. I prefer to penetrate than be penetrated, if you catch my drift; so biting pillows is not something I would need to do. Of course, biting pillows was important in the past to hide a homosexual act. Bite a pillow to stop moaning, so … Continue reading Disused Gay Terms That Are Hilariously Wrong
The call for changing the rainbow flag is already dividing people across the globe, which is not helpful if we wish to gain traction in global inequalities around sexuality and gender. Continue reading Changing The Pride Flag Won’t Help
Nor is it “conversion” for that matter… Therapy, n. (Theh-ru-pee)Meaning: treatment intended to relieve or heal a disorder. As an openly gay man, it’s impossible to consider my sexuality as a disorder. I’m clearly not confused since I made my mind up years ago. And being gay can’t be an illness if it doesn’t adversely affect me — or others, providing the sex is consensual … Continue reading Gay Conversion Therapy Is Not “Therapy”
Even fluid states do not choose to be fluid. Most of us experience sexual fluidity at least once in our lives. For some, it lasts years; for others, it’s a temporal moment of confusion. And all are exacerbated by societal norms. Yes, even I fell for the idea that being straight is normal. But nothing really is normal. It’s just accepted. Unfortunately, the ongoing idea … Continue reading Sexual Fluidity Is Not A Choice
The Gay Straight-Talker 